The things I can't ignore.
I
came across Kelsey J Barnes’ TinyLetter some time ago – and
miraculously, it seems to be one of the few that actually land in my
inbox, despite subscribing to several since? Gmail, sort your sh*t
out.
Anyway,
Kelsey wrote a little something entitled ‘10 Things Ex-Lovers Ruined For Me’ (‘because of their need to introduce me to songs,
books and other things that now appear at random moments in my life
without warning’). It of course moved me, and inspired me to write
something similar.
But
I won’t be writing a list. Because when I settled down to actually
pull together all the things I remember, and am now somewhat sensitive about doing/seeing/hearing...it didn’t
all come to me in a neat little list. It flooded in like a storm at
sea, throwing everything up around me and trying to suck me in.
These
are the things I cannot ignore. The things I think of, and the
things I miss.
(Photo: Lex Brookman)
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There’s
a certain Ed song I can only listen to right before and just after
seeing you. I sold that red dress with the little flowers all over it
– thank God, it was sitting in my wardrobe, shrieking at me. I
can’t watch ‘Drive’ ever again, at least not without wondering exactly when we paused it that day – and wanting to put a hand down my
pants. I heard a rumour that Bolton’s bar closed not too long ago, and was weirdly sad, after
all those nights spent on its terrace that I barely remember. Some
days all I want to hear is your voice – singing the songs that are
about me, or just saying the words you’d pronounce differently to
me.
Hearing
a pub karaoke can often bring back visions of your smug, sneering
face, sipping your Fosters and lime and insisting you’d do a better
job of each song.
For
years I couldn’t – wouldn’t – watch (500) Days, but now I
giggle when Chloe Grace Moretz says ‘Jesus’ abs’, like we did
in the cinema.
It
killed me when I saw you’d gone to the pub I’d been trying to
take you to, for 2 years, with her. You always said it seemed ‘too
hipster’ for you.
I
still have your old bow tie, somewhere in my room. I keep trying to
find it so I can post it back to you, its rightful owner, and
apologise for keeping it after everything that happened. I wanted to
bring it when we had coffee last year. It would have felt very ‘full
circle’. But it doesn’t want to be found. I’ll keep searching.
(Photo: Lex Brookman)
Remember
that time we came back to mine after a night of drunken dancing, and
we were so amazed we’d left out bread, Scotch
pancakes and crumpets, unwrapped beside my toaster on the kitchen top
ready for Drunk Us to consume? I should have done a lot more things
that night. I still don’t know why I didn’t.
Tattoos
make me think of you. Woodsmoke smells just like you. The
Northern line always leads to you. That band, that song, that singer,
sounds remarkably like you. Going to my favourite restaurant alone
now is strange; I really miss your sister’s cooking; you reminded
me how much I loved Blink-182.
I
don’t agree with the expression ‘other half’. I am whole on my
own. But I loved it when I was sixteen, and you called me your
‘better half’.
I
smile at every dog I pass in the street, because of you. I never used
to.
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This is so sweet, and so well written! x
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